Good
Insurance agents are trained to be immune to rejection. For the side being
sold, I learnt that some form of education or training is needed for them to.
It is just so hard for some people to say no.
The feeling
of being “paiseh” (Singaporean lingo for a subtle feeling of guilt) becomes
stronger if the insurance agent who is a close friend or even your relative?
This is actually the bigger question that bugs me. I figured I need a solution
which can work.
Research
online suggests 2 main approaches
1) Flat out
rejection: Reiterate to the agent that you have no interest in insurance for
the time being. (Might be difficult if the agent is someone you know, as you
need to give some ‘face’ to him or her.)
2) Some
sort of a lie: Say that you have no job, you just bought insurance, or even to
the extent of cursing yourself such that you are no longer eligible for insurance.
(Seriously… online advice from the forum. Notwithstanding, some of these are
useful to block out hit-and-go agents)
I needed a
more sustainable solution than that. The solution I was seeking was in fact the art of saying no.
Think Win Win; Saying no is not just about you
I fully
understand that innately you have an obligation to help and support your friend
or relative. What I have come to understand is that, “no” need not be the end
point.
To Avoid:
Say no, you feel bad yourself and you lose a friendship or something more.
Best: Propose
an alternative and find a mutual justification
Since you
can’t say no, is there a way to negotiate? Be clear and explain why their
request is not possible. Remember to show your appreciation.
“I can’t,
but I appreciate you asking me. Let me know if I can help in another way.”
“I cannot buy from you because I am currently not ready to buy. However, I can ..”
“I cannot buy from you because I am currently not ready to buy. However, I can ..”
Offer other
options like refer your friends, or giving him the first privilege when you
have the intention. You are
also helping him by rejecting, such that you do not waste both his and your
time.
Then again, Saying no is actually just about you
Finally the
most important thing to yourself is that while saying no, you are actually
saying yes to your own priorities. My friend tried very hard to convince me to
join him, and by rejecting him, I am actually saying yes to pursue my own
dreams and plans.
The ability
to be able to say no, whether to an insurance agent, or in life actually have
great benefits to your psychological well being. Learning to say no can be very
liberating and can be a huge stress reliever.
Well, it turned
out that this post ended up extolling the benefits of learning how to say no. I
just had to continue writing as this is actually, a very important life tip. So
I encourage you to start being firm in saying your “NO” from today!
Hope this
was useful to you!
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